In my most recent posting we looked at what happens when a woman allows her own feminine energy and the gifts inherent in her to be overshelmed or diminished by the masculine energy that may be all around her.  I mentioned  the women I’ve worked with and interviewed for my latest book, The Bitch, The Crone, and The Harlot, who told me that they felt invisible, as if they had no real value, as if people looked through them instead of connecting with them, especially as they moved into ahd through the midpoint of their lives.  Today I want to offer a few tips for bringing the power, wisdom, and sensual awareness of the feminine into all areas of life, a practice that makes “invisible” much less likely.

*Develop subtle yet clear ways to demonstrate the many ways your feminine perspective contributes to the desired outcome in any situation.  Remember that you bring more than half of what’s necessary for healing, resolution, success, well being, and joy in any circumstance.  Assiting others to recognize the truth of this (without resorting to harsh and ball busting behavior) makes you both relevent and undismissable.

*Women tend to think and speak in terms of connection and relationship.  Men tend to be wired to focus on gathering information and taking action.  In order to bring your sperspective to the men in your life (and have it respected), practice integrating a little of their language into your own when you communicate with them.  This will help them feel heard and understood while assisting them to move more in the direction of the connection that’s so important to you.

*Choose to operate from the strength of who you are, not the weakness.  Allowing your emotions to run rampant will only result in being shut out by those who are threatened by them.  You can live, love, and work as an agent of true transformation in your family, your community, and your workplace by helping to establish real balance between the male perspective and the female viewpoint.

*It’s essential to take pride in all that you are as a woman.  It’s when we begin to doubt ourselves and our value that we feel insignificant and insecure.  Remember that in ancient times it was the women (most often the older women) who served as the oracles, healers, and sources of insight.  That’s still your role.

More tips next time.  Take these to heart; living them will create positive change in the way you feel about and understand yourself, and in how those around you respond to who you are and the  extraordinary gifts you bring as a female.